Bad News to a Family Member!
Have you ever been in a situation where you had to tell a loved one a piece of news that would break their heart? In my life, I had a day when I told my mom that she was a bad mother. It's not the same situation that Wes's news, but it broke my mother's heart. My mother and I had a massive argument about how she handled me; my brother and sister and I blurted out that she was a bad mother because she had favorites. It was the day I saw my mother break into tears, and she cried the whole week, not wanting to speak with me. Hearing those words out of my mouth was a massive disappointment for her. She felt that the world was crumbling down, but Wes's mom's reaction was that she stopped and needed a moment to recuperate and kept doing her routine. I promised that I would never say those words to her. Afterward, we clear out the situation. In Wes's case, he couldn't change the fact that Amy was pregnant, and his mother wasn't going to let their relationship tear down because of the news. I can relate this to a situation that happened with my sister. Still, my mother reacted differently than Wes's mother because she wanted her daughter to finish her career, but it didn't break their relationship. My mother felt disappointed, but my sister continued her studies and recovered my mother's trust. Another occasion that I had to build my courage was when I had to tell them about my career change. I wasted my parent's money and pride when I told them I wanted to be an engineer, and I felt embarrassed to say that I wanted to be a teacher. I cried and asked for forgiveness because I couldn't be able to study the career I initially said I wanted.
In life, we wish to tell our parents about our darkest revelations, and it isn't easy to bring it up, but sometimes our consciousness eats up our mental state. We have no choice but to break the terrible news to our loved ones. Parents or our loved ones may all have different reactions, but I feel they feel some sadness or disappointment in their inner core, which can be a relief to release the secrets but can break our hearts to see that we have broken other hearts. How do we build courage? Courage comes with honesty and opening your heart. Courage isn't easy because you are afraid that you may lose the love of your loved ones, especially your mothers. Wes and I had trouble breaking our news, but in the end, everything went to its daily routine. We struggle to confess our darkest truths in that moment of revelation, and sometimes it can be a negative or positive effect. In life, news always breaks out, and it's better to say it straight to the person you love instead of hearing it from somewhere else because that would be a betrayal of their love.
"A mother's love is eternal"
I appreciate you telling your story, and sometimes it does take an insurmountable amount of courage to say things to the people you love that you know they won't agree with. Sometimes in life it is better to voice how you feel rather than holding those emotions in, because I learned from experience those withheld emotions can cause anxiety. You never want to hurt the people you love, but having an open communication can help the relationship down the road.
ReplyDeleteI can relate to having to tell your parents about a career change. I had to do the same when I decided I did not want to go into nursing as my mom expected. I had to just build up the courage and come right out and say it. I knew there was a risk that she'd be disappointed, but I also knew that m y hart was not in it and that the disappointment would be far greater if I went into that career halfhearted and failed because it was not my passion. You did the right thing by following your true path.
ReplyDeleteMy post was also about giving bad news to a parent. It truly is the hardest thing to do especially with how much you love them and don't want to disappoint them. Career changes will always take place, especially at this age. They will love you no matter what!
ReplyDeleteJennifer,
ReplyDeleteGreat content! Make sure to revise your work for grammatical errors and to ensure your writing is fluid. Any new moments/idea you are discussing should have a clear distinction.